Yet another young actor has taken his own life. It seems to be pandemic lately. Drug overdose, hanging, self-inflicted gunshot wound. Any way you look at it, it means a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
Is something or someone worth paying the ultimate price? I must be honest here. I have had thoughts on the subject myself, especially when my husband cheated on me and left me. I think everyone has had those thoughts. Luckily, most of us get help or work our way out of situation.
I’m not necessarily talking about teenagers, who sometimes are impulsive and don’t realize that their attempt may be successful. They may be seeking attention more than they are seeking death.
It’s the recent headlines of young adults, in their 20’s/30’s, that are most concerning right now. From the drug overdoses of Heath Ledger and Michael Jackson and Cory Monteith (which I believe were accidental but playing with drugs is playing with fire), to the most recent deaths of Gia from the Bachelor and former Disney star Lee Thompson Young, who had a promising career on Rizzoli and Isles.
From the outside it seemed these people had everything to live for. On the inside it must have been a different story. To be desperate enough, in that much pain, to think you must end it all, that is serious business. If only they gave themselves one more chance. If they only knew how much they were loved, or how many people would mourn them. The loss of a life is always hard to deal with. How does a family reconcile that death with it’s suicide? The Catholic Church used to state that suicide was a sin, and that persons committing suicide could not have a Catholic service and burial. However, the Church has since changed this point of view, especially if the person was not in their right mind. But for the family, there is shame, there is guilt, feelings of what more could they have done? If the suicidee intended to make a statement with their death, well they sure do, with emotions that live on when they don’t. The parents, the spouses, the children….how do they deal with the fact that their loved one purposely left them? Is that REALLY what the person intended? It almost seems selfish, in a weird way, but then again suicide is not a normal thing. It’s the ones left behind that suffer the most.
I wish that before every important decision in life is made, you must pass a test or have a waiting period. Too many things are done on impulse, whether it be shopping, marriage, divorce, cheating, stealing, murder, and death. Too bad we can’t stop the world for a few minutes to rethink our actions. So many times we have buyers /sellers remorse. We could use a grace period for everything, especially suicide. If you make a bad purchase, it is eventually paid off. If you take your own life, it is forever.