Am I being rude to be offended by rudeness?

rude

Rude.  Rudeness.  A tricky word(s) to define.  Wikipedia defines it primarily as such:

“Rudeness (also called impudence or effrontery) is a display of disrespect by not complying with the social “laws” or etiquette of a group or culture. These laws have been established as the essential boundaries of normally accepted behavior. To be unable or unwilling to align one’s behavior with these laws known to the general population of what is socially acceptable is to be rude.”

Disrespect.  I had a boss who told me constantly that I was disrespectful to him if I didn’t agree with every word he said, especially in the realm of his over-the-top politics.  I felt that he was rude for even interjecting his maniac opinions into the workplace.

Inconsiderate. Insensitive. Impolite. Bad manners.  Inappropriate behavior or dress code.

Sometimes I feel like I am surrounded by rudeness.  And so many times I am offended by it, and want to say something rude about the whole situation.

If a child back talks to me or another adult, I want to say something to them or the parent to let them know it is offensive, and downright rude.  But that just gets me into trouble.  I watch and see how these kids manipulate everyone in their path, and their parents just ignore the behavior, thereby reinforcing it.  But it would be rude for me to say something about their rudeness.  I am not their parent, therefore I have no right to say anything.

If I’m with a group of people, and somebody says something rude, or does something rude, I feel as though I have to bite my tongue, because to call them out for it would be rude.  Again, it would be rude for me to say something about their rudeness.

If somebody cuts me off in traffic, it is rude for me to give them a rude gesture, because they would just give me a ruder one back.  One big giant circle.  Just perpetuating the rudeness.

If you spend a large amount of time getting ready to go to a fancy function, and someone else doesn’t, and looks inappropriate for the occasion, I think that is rude. But just say something and people get all offended.

And sometimes people say I am rude, for pointing out the truth.  Most people can’t handle the truth, seriously.  They think I am rude for even making the statement.  They just wanna continue to live in their own little paper doll world.  Just pretend nothing bad ever happens.

My sister says my mouth gets me into trouble all the time.  And it does, I will admit it.  I speak my mind, and sometimes it sounds rude.  And sometimes I mean it to sound differently but it comes out wrong, which is rude in itself.  I think I was shut up for so long in my younger days that now the damn has burst and I can’t stop it, lol.   Again, one big giant circle.

I just think that social manners have gone by the wayside.  When I was growing up, in the Catholic school system, we were tortured   taught manners and politeness by the nuns, who were still allowed to beat teach us how to behave even if our parents didn’t.  And at home if we talked back, we got a swift slap across the face to knock some sense back into us.  Now, I’m certainly not advocating this, but I think the pendulum has swung back too far the other way when it comes to raising your children.  Even as a parent you are not allowed to touch them.  There should be a happy medium.  You shouldn’t have to beat a child to get them to behave, but they should have a tiny bit of fear of consequences and whole lot of respect inside them for other people.

I would love to hear YOUR opinions on this, especially parents!

 

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Is there only one true Jesus? – REDUX

Now that we are “Popeless”, and Lent to boot, my Catholic friends and I have been having “Christian” dinners together on Friday nights.  (This means meatless).  We have been having some lively discussions on the reason behind the Papal retirement.  I mean, he quit.  There is no quitting in the Papacy!  I’m sure to non-Catholics, all these cover-ups and conspiracy theories are making for a lot of “told you so” fodder.  Anyway, I originally wrote this blog over a year ago, but it seems very relevant today.

Last night I got into an very interesting conversation about my renewed interest in God, Jesus, and all things religion.  Lately I have been reading the Left Behind series of books, and what a revelation the Book of Revelations has become to me!

I went to Catholic school back in the days of real priests and nuns as teachers.  Since most of them were not necessarily educated to be teachers, they relied very heavily on teaching reading, writing and religion.  The whole school attended Mass every morning, and twice on holy days.  I think I can still recite the entire thing in Latin!  Which actually turned out very useful to me, as Latin is the root of all Romance languages, and my love of reading and writing is with me to this day.

I grew up receiving most of the sacraments and going to church and never questioning the teaching of the church.  That has changed since I began questioning evolutionism versus creationism.  I have my own theory on that which combined the two to my satisfaction.  (I will write a blog on my theory soon!)

Then along came Left Behind and a few other books I have read along that genre.  It really made sense to me.  I had never really thought much about the “rapture” and all that would happen afterwards.  I read the words years ago but never studied them or knew their true meaning.  Also, I have always been troubled about what would happen to all those good people on earth who believe in their own God, like Buddha and Allah etc.  And the Jewish faith, who is still waiting for their Messiah.  Is it really true that they cannot go to heaven because they don’t believe in Jesus?  Do they go to their own heaven?  Or are they “left behind”, and become true believers during the Tribulation?

Crikey, I remember back in grade school when I thought my non-Catholic (but still Christian) friends couldn’t go to heaven with me and I cried and cried.  That’s what the nuns taught us, and we all bought it hook, line and sinker.  I think that is why some people think the Catholic church is like a cult.  I am proud to be a Catholic, but don’t buy into 100% of their doctrine.  Which they change.  More than once.  Confusing.  Also they don’t aways practice what they preach.  What?!?! you may say.  Think about the cover up with priests/boys.  Enough said.  Moving on.

The idea of an Antichrist and Armagedon has always fascinated me.  But I never thought about the reality of that actual scenario.  The Left Behind books, even though classified as fiction, give me a believable picture of how it will happen and what life will really be like. And if so, I certainly don’t want to be left behind, as I have I stated in a previous blog!

Our conversation last night debated the question on why God would not let a good person into heaven, if they follow all the commandments and moral code, but don’t necessarily believe in Jesus like he wants.  Many people figure that if they are Christian and live a decent life that they get a free pass into heaven.  I’m afraid that isn’t true.  I’m afraid I may not make it there, even though I am a believer.  But I am going to try my hardest.

I am glad that I had good friends to have this interesting debate with (thanks Amy, Kathy and Lin!).  Everyone has their own beliefs and their slant on religion.  I learn so much from other people.  I hope to keep an open mind and become a better person.