G.I. Joe drama, new developments

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Here’s G.I. Joe, with his angel wings.  After his death.  After his nationwide funeral.  After the many fundraisers for his grieving family.  After an entire community searched for days for your killers, in the stifling heat, that dropped dogs and officers alike, all intent upon finding those 3 mysterious men.

I did not personally know Joe or his family, but I was devastated, along with everyone else in the area.  People stood for hours and hours in the hot sun to salute his funeral procession.

To me, things just didn’t add up from the get go.  My best friend and I talked about it daily.  We both agreed something fishy was going on.  I remember VIVIDLY when Melanie, the wife, made her speech on TV the day after his death.  She made some remarks which didn’t make sense to me at the time, but now they do.  She made a POINT of telling everybody that after Joe’s day was over and all his good deeds were done, he came home  to HER.  Like she was telling somebody he was HER property.  As it turns out, he shared himself with another woman.  You all heard the stories.  But I digress.

I did some searches on Joe, saw pictures, videos.  I don’t know why, but I wasn’t buying into the whole savior persona that G.I. Joe was.  He looked mean and tough and military, with the high and tight haircut, the tattoos, the smoking, the workouts.  But not like hero military.  Like he was a mercenary.  Like he walked around like his shit didn’t stink.  Like he could do whatever he wanted.  And he did.  He must have had a lot of blackmail shit on his former boss, is all I can say.

But, I still thought it was a damn shame, that another police officer was killed.  My personal opinion didn’t matter.

As time went on, people became impatient.  As time went on, more and more insidious rumors were started.  As time went on, the worst scenario came to pass.

Joe was not a hero.  Joe was anything but.  Joe was a fraud, who used and abused his position and authority to the max.  Joe was a text book narcissist.  Joe was going to get caught.  Joe took the coward’s way out.  Joe took his own life.  Joe let his family down, and holding the proverbial bag.

Today, Melanie Glinewiecz was indicted on fraud charges.  She turned herself in, was out on bail shortly thereafter.  Bail money that probably came from a donation or fund raiser.  To my knowledge, Melanie never gave any of the money back.  If fact, when her funds were frozen, she went to court to get it back.  No remorse there.

And if anybody is thinking that Joe was innocent, well, his wife pretty much threw him under the bus today.  Her attorney put out the following statement “Melodie is a victim of her husband’s secret actions and looks forward to her day in Court to show the world her innocence”.

Not her fault.  All her husband’s fault.  No matter all the text messages that show her complicity, along with the military son, who buried his father while in full military uniform.  God that just rags on me.

Anyway.  I feel bad, I do.  I feel bad for the younger kids who most likely knew nothing, and now will forever be tainted with scandal from both their father, and now mother.  I also think the military son will be brought up on charges, either by the military or the police.  He was also in cahoots and borrowed money that wasn’t his.

After being in the spotlight, now Fox Lake just wants to get back to being a nice small town in the Midwest.

 

 

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Oh Joe. We hardly knew ya. But the hits just keep on coming.

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This is an update to my original post done on Wednesday, when the news of Joe’s suicide first broke.  Many people, including myself, were incredulous, and didn’t want to believe the worst.  We held out hope that it really was a setup, a cover up.  Now, I’m not so sure.  More and more information is pouring out of this investigation.

His wife and son are now implicated and under criminal investigation.

Wait, what?  His loving, grieving wife and son?

Joe was put on probation for 30 days some years ago for alleged sexual harassment of an officer. Turns out she was his mistress.

Wait, what?  A mistress?

He wouldn’t leave his wife for her, so he arranged something else.  His son may now go under military investigation for a sham marriage with Joe’s mistress in order to get better benefits.

Wait, what?  A sham marriage?

Joe’s desk contained packets of cocaine.  It is speculated he was going to plant it on the Administrator.  A text message also said he hoped she got a DUI.  He supposedly also tried to arrange a hit on her with a gang member.

Wait, what?  A hit?

There were reports that his wife was taken to court twice in regards to unpaid credit card bills.  There were pictures of his wife with him in Hawaii on a very expensive vacation.

Wait, what?  Money troubles?

There is a lot more out there, more and more keeps getting reported.  I am not sure what is absolutely 100% the truth.  I hope many of these allegations are not true.  But it seems that the tasks force had all their ducks in a row before reporting their findings.  The evidence is overwhelming.

This reminds me so much of the Bill Cosby issue.  When women first started reporting the sexual abuse, there were MANY non-believers.  More and more women have come forth.  More and more evidence has come to light.  Is he guilty?  Well, I always say, “If it looks like a duck, and walks like a duck, it’s a duck”   I just have a gut feeling he is guilty.

Same here, in this situation.  I did not personally know Joe.  But I was caught up in the love and adulation when he was first killed.  He “appeared” to be everything people wanted him to be.  A true hero, gunned down in the line of duty.  A grieving wife and children.  A whole county, state, heck a whole country giving him a final farewell worthy of a king.  I have never seen such a funeral.  It happened at a time when the whole country felt the police were under attack.  So many factors were in place for the country to let all their emotions be expressed for G.I. Joe.  He ended up being the recipient of all that.  We all came together in solidarity.  I haven’t seen anything like it since 911.

There were many beautiful stories posted Wednesday about just showing love to the family, never mind all the negativity, think positive etc.  They were very heart warming, and I kind of felt guilty for thinking maybe he WAS guilty.   I personally think that maybe he did a few things, and then it just snowballed, and he and whoever was involved just couldn’t stop it.  One lie leads to another, and another.  It’s hard to keep something like this under control.  I think maybe Joe did a lot of good things in his life, but this will overshadow it all.  I think Joe loved all the adulation he got from being a cop, a vet, G.I.Joe.  He loved the power that came with it all.  He looked like a military hard ass, who had a heart of gold, and loved his wife and family.

But here’s the kicker.  If his wife and son stood up there the whole time, accepting all the well wishes, the grief of so many, the fear of so many thinking killers were on the loose, the dedication of hundreds of police officers searching to the point of exhaustion and dehydration in the hot sun….if they were indeed guilty….then shame on them.  All the benefits, poker runs, funds given to them to help them with the loss of their husband/father…how could they take it?  How could they let this sham continue?

Shame on them.  Shame on him.  He took the easy way out.  He left his family behind to pick up the pieces.  To be disgraced.  To possibly go to jail.  This paints the whole extended family with the broad brush of a scandal.  Many innocent people will suffer because of this.

I HOPE, I PRAY, that much of this is not true.  My gut feeling says it is. (The old duck theory).  Many people out there will continue not to believe the worst.  Many people who knew them personally say this could never have happened.  I hope they are right.  But if they are, that means that so many levels of law enforcement, from Fox Lake on up, are totally corrupt.  It’s possible.  Maybe Joe was a scapegoat.  Maybe Joe was killed to cover up their own misdeeds.  Maybe, maybe.  Conspiracy theories abound.  I hope there are a lot of guilty people out there shitting in their pants, waiting for the other shoe to drop, whether they are law enforcement or not.  Cause this is no longer just about Joe.  There are more people involved.  This may just be the tip of the iceberg.

Gah.

Here is my original post….

This is Lt. Joe Gliniewicz.  G.I. Joe.  When he died, the world around Fox Lake, Il came to a halt.  There was a massive manhunt.  An honor funeral, for a man who was a vet, a long time police officer, a loving husband and father.  His funeral was unlike anything I had every seen.  The procession lasted for miles, and many hours.  It was filled with police officers from every state.  It was a hero’s tribute.  People stood in line for hours in a hot gym.  They lined the streets for hours on end in the hot sun.  The community came together like nothing I have ever seen.  We were national news.  Blue lives matter.  Joe quickly became the poster boy for recent police shootings.

Joe2The investigation continued.  Information was not forthcoming.  Press conferences told us very little.  Something fishy was surely going on.  Speculation was running rampant.  Many theories, including my own, pointed back to the Fox Lake Police Chief investigation.  Many people though he was set up.  It certainly seemed plausible.

Time ticked on, with nothing new.  His wife went on TV and swore he would never commit suicide.  His son did too.  They seemed like the perfect family.

But.  Always a but.  So many clichés I could use.  But today, our vision of G.I. Joe was shattered.  The evidence is overwhelming.  The worst scenario did indeed happen.

G. I. Joe went from Hero to Zero.

Apparently Lt. Joe committed suicide.  Lt. Joe stole money from his own Explorer’s program.  Lt. Joe was on Adult websites.  Lt. Joe was basically a dirty cop, and the net was tightening around him.  He planned an elaborate homicide scheme to throw them off the trail.  To save his family from the suicide stigma, that will forever now be attached to his name  To save his pension benefits for his wife.  The wife that stated on national TV that her husband would have never committed suicide.  Did she know about the money?   I don’t know.  I hope not.

I believe that Joe was human  .I believe that Joe tried to save his family.  I believe that Joe might have only done this because the noose was tightening and he didn’t to go to jail and shame his family.

Joe was a good cop.  Even though his suicide was “carefully staged”, I think Joe panicked and ran out of time.  Joe would have known that deleted emails and text messages mean nothing.  Joe would have known that any deep investigation into his death would have brought up all the dirt.  Joe was probably hoping for a quick homicide verdict on his death, and that would be it.

Nope.  No, Joe.  Too many other people involved.  Too many good cops/investigators left.  Too many clues left.  We all leave behind a huge digital footprint, which can be traced and analyzed.

I’m sorry Joe.  I’m really sorry.  I’m really sorry for your family.  I’m sorry that they will have this stigma, these labels, attached to the family name forever.  Your acts will forever define your family.

I hope and pray that all these investigators are wrong.  I hope and pray that all this evidence against you was a set up.  I hope and pray that ALL these thoughts and prayers surrounding your death for months now weren’t all for naught.  I hope and pray your family didn’t know.  I hope and pray they can move on.  I hope and pray for your soul.

That’s about all anybody can do.

Look me in the eye

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Wake up feeling depressed?  Grab your gun and go pick off a few students.

Wake up feeling hopeless?  Grab your gun and go pick off a few students.

Wake up feeling lonely?  Grab your gun and go pick off a few students.

Wake up feeling unloved?  Grab your gun and go pick off a few students.

You see where I’m going here, right?

Since when has it become the norm to take your feelings out on other people?

Since when has it become almost a weekly occurrence to have a shooting?

Since when has so many people gone undetected for mental illness?

Since when do people have such a disregard for other’s lives?

Lives matter.  All lives.  Even the disturbed ones.  Especially the disturbed ones.

I find it hard to believe that a good kid can go bad overnight and decide to go on a rampage and kill other people, and then usually himself.

I find it hard to believe that parents would have no clue.

I find it hard to believe that friends would have no clue.

I find it hard to believe that neighbors would have no clue.

I find it hard to believe that teachers would have no clue.

People have committed suicide since the beginning of time.

Now they committed homicide/suicide.

How did this happen?  How did it become a “group” event instead of solitary event?

Has life itself become so unbearable that this is the only option for these people?

People have debates about guns.  People pass bills for gun control.  People put guards up.  People have extra security.

Guns are just a tool.  We could be talking about knives or any other weapon that can harm a person.  Guns are just the most efficient killing machines to use in a crowd for one person to cause devastation while looking in the eyes of their victims.  Watching them die.  Bombs etc. are too impersonal.  People themselves are very impressive killing machines.  Top of the food chain.  Top of all chains.

People should start worrying about PEOPLE instead of guns.  People should start talking to people.  Not texting.  Not calling.  Talking.  Face to face.

Families should spend time together.  Parents should be connected to what their kids need. Kids need time and attention.  Money can’t buy love.  Kids need to learn HOW to become good people.  How to deal with their problems constructively.  If a kid doesn’t have any friends, why?  If a kid is doing bad in school, why?  If an adult is having personality problems, why?  If an adult is doing bad at work, why?  If someone is a loner, and spends their time writing manifestos or other diatribes, someone should know.  Especially a parent.  In this day and age of technology, it is too easy to hide behind a computer or phone.  Parents need to monitor what their kids are doing online and on social media.  High tech is not necessarily a good thing for the human race.

People need to start reconnected with people on a personal level.  All this mass killing is a cry for help.  A BIG cry.  We need to start listening.

 

 

Guns….to have or have not

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No guns allowed.  That’s right.  No. guns. allowed.

These signs are posted everywhere now, it seems, especially since the passing of the concealed carry law here in Illinois.  Every gun crazy person is now sporting a gun hidden in a pocket of their new expensive “conceal” clothing.  A whole new market has opened up.

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There are whole clothing lines, from lingerie to outerwear, just for gun toting.

 

 

The whole subject of guns is a hotbed of controversy.  I myself would prefer that guns were not hidden.  You got a gun, show it, so we know you are a big shot and “armed and dangerous”.  Don’t stick it in your underwear and accidently shoot your frank and beans off.

Speaking of which, there are a significant number of gun fanatics I know that suffer from small penis syndrome.  You know the type.  Mucho macho hard talking show off gun toters.  They can’t WAIT to be a vigilante and save people from a possible criminal.  They’ll shoot at the first sign of trouble.

But guess what?  You can’t bring your gun anywhere anymore.  The signs are up.  No guns allowed, in church, school, bars, restaurants, hotels, casinos, grocery stores, retail stores…..so hey Mr. Macho, where ya gonna carry that gun?  Most likely you’ll have to leave it in the car.

Which leads me to an interesting story.  I was seeing a guy who had a huge case of small penis syndrome.  The first time he came to visit me I did not know he was a gun fanatic.  The next morning I looked outside and saw that he had left his car door open overnight.  He ran out like a flash, and was relieved to find that his GUN was still in the backseat.  I was livid.  My brother’s kids live yards away from my house, and what if they found the gun?  That’s what happens.  Kids find guns, and then kids die.  Anyway, I told him I did not want to be around guns but he continued to bring them (yes, multiple ones) and carry them into places even if they had a sign.  He was totally belligerent about the whole thing, and was one of the final nails in his coffin when I broke up with him.

And the whole Bambi thing.  Hunting.  How can you look a wild, free, beautiful animal in the eye and then shoot and kill it?  I just don’t get it.  My ex-boss shot a deer across the street in the woods, and then proceeded to hack it up in front of the office windows.  All. day. long.  I hope one day a deer will attack him, like in those crazy videos.  He deserves it.  And much worse.  So, let’s move along.

I am not TOTALLY against guns.  They have their place.  I myself have a FOID card, and like to go to the shooting range.  If I ever NEED to shoot, I want to know how.  When the Zombie virus hits, I want to use a gun, not a knife or sword and get their blood and guts all over me.  Unless I can be badass, like Michonne.

In the meantime though, I am not going to carry around my gun, looking for trouble. (George Zimmerman anyone?)  Most people I ask about why they carry guns say they would rather have it if they need it, then not have it and be sorry or dead.  And that if you pass a law and take away all the guns, the only guys that will have one will be the criminals.  Probably true somewhat.  But the stats show that most gun ownership results in higher gun-related accidents, homicide and suicide rates in the home.  I’m sure the NRA would dispute these stats.  But anyway.

It is a Catch-22 indeed.  What are your thoughts on gun?

 

Take your life back

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Yet another young actor has taken his own life.  It seems to be pandemic lately.  Drug overdose, hanging, self-inflicted gunshot wound.  Any way you look at it, it means a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

Is something or someone worth paying the ultimate price?  I must be honest here.  I have had thoughts on the subject myself, especially when my husband cheated on me and left me.  I think everyone has had those thoughts.  Luckily, most of us get help or work our way out of situation.

I’m not necessarily talking about teenagers, who sometimes are impulsive and don’t realize that their attempt may be successful.  They may be seeking attention more than they are seeking death.

It’s the recent headlines of young adults, in their 20’s/30’s, that are most concerning right now.  From the drug overdoses of Heath Ledger and Michael Jackson and Cory Monteith (which I believe were accidental but playing with drugs is playing with fire), to the most recent deaths of Gia from the Bachelor and former Disney star Lee Thompson Young, who had a promising career on Rizzoli and Isles.

From the outside it seemed these people had everything to live for.  On the inside it must have been a different story.  To be desperate enough, in that much pain, to think you must end it all, that is serious business.  If only they gave themselves one more chance.  If they only knew how much they were loved, or how many people would mourn them.  The loss of a life is always hard to deal with.  How does a family reconcile that death with it’s suicide? The Catholic Church used to state that suicide was a sin, and that persons committing suicide could not have a Catholic service and burial. However, the Church has since changed this point of view, especially if the person was not in their right mind.  But for the family, there is shame, there is guilt, feelings of what more could they have done?  If the suicidee intended to make a statement with their death, well they sure do, with emotions that live on when they don’t.  The parents, the spouses, the children….how do they deal with the fact that their loved one purposely left them?  Is that REALLY what the person intended?  It almost seems selfish, in a weird way, but then again suicide is not a normal thing.  It’s the ones left behind that suffer the most.

I wish that before every important decision in life is made, you must pass a test or have a waiting period.  Too many things are done on impulse, whether it be shopping, marriage, divorce, cheating, stealing, murder, and death.  Too bad we can’t stop the world for a few minutes to rethink our actions.  So many times we have buyers /sellers remorse.  We could use a grace period for everything, especially suicide.  If you make a bad purchase, it is eventually paid off.  If you take your own life, it is forever.