She – Door #1

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She gets out of bed to start a new day. A day that is different from what it should be. How did she end up here?

She ponders on her situation for a little while. Life has so many doors to choose from. It’s almost like a game show, but with long lasting consequences. Door #1, Door #2 or Door #3. Pick one. And if you want to, you can choose a different one. It may or may not be better. That is the consequence.

She thinks her first door was back in college. The fact that she went to college at all was a miracle. She was the first one in the family. Even her mother said that women just need to learn how to be a good secretary. But she didn’t want to be a secretary. She wanted her own secretary.

So she was on her own in college, working to pay for school. In fact sometimes she worked instead of going to class, which was ironic. She also had a lot of fun, for the first time in her life. But being on her own was a double-edge sword. Yes, she was free and could do what she wanted. But sometimes she didn’t do the most important things. Sometimes she put fun and working ahead of class. Good thing she was so smart 😉

It was hard going to college.  Many times she stayed at school instead of going home for breaks, so she could work.  Most of her college friends/sorority sisters went to Florida or on ski vacations with their families.  They were the ones who called their Daddies every week to deposit more money in their checking account.  She just stayed in an empty house and went to work every day.

She wanted to be a teacher. The only bad part about that was the student teaching requirement. You got to write down three cities of choice. She got her third choice, chicagoland. However, it was very south and very dangerous chicagoland. Her parents wouldn’t let her go. So she gave up her dream of being a teacher 😦 and decided on business, which was more practical.  It would serve her well in the future.

She was glad she went to college.  She was glad she stuck with Door #1.

 

There’s a reason why you should never take candy from a stranger…..

Because if you do, you might end up being the butt of a joke on Jimmy Kimmel.  He has parents film their kids while telling them they ate all of their Halloween candy and putting it on YouTube.  Some of the reactions are funny.  Most of them appall me.  If my kid screamed and cried and threw a huge tantrum and threw things at me and said he hated me, that would be the last piece of candy they would have for a while!  And what a way to humiliate/damage your child.  Take him out trick or treating, and then take it away.  What kind of lesson is that for a child?

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So both parties are acting badly.  The parent for starting it, and the child for reacting poorly.  It’s all about me me me for the kid, who doesn’t understand how to act when he doesn’t get his way.  The way they talk to their parents disgusts me.  They show no respect.  Granted, the parent is doing a mean thing.  But sometimes parents have to do “mean things” for the welfare of the child.  Should the child react with a temper tantrum and hatred?  Is that what you have taught him?  Then you need to go back to school.

And is it really “mean”?  What about funny?  Is it funny to tease your child?  I think it could be, if your child knows you would really never do him any real harm.  I mean, it IS candy, which most parents don’t like their child to have anyway.  So if a parent took away the candy, should the child understand?  Should they throw a tantrum?

I think maybe a little tantrum would be in order, depending upon the age of the child.  After all, as one kid pointed out, he worked HARD for that candy.  It is HIS.  And on that point, I agree!

What I don’t agree with is a kid telling his parents he HATES them and having a total hissy fit.  That is NOT ok with me.  It’s not ok to do that.  But if kids do it all the time, and the parents don’t correct the behavior, it will continue.

Parents are responsible for molding their children into good people.  People who can take the good AND the bad, and act appropriately.  Children that don’t know how to act will not be successful in controlling their emotions throughout their lives.

I used to think my mom and dad were mean.  My mom used to say all time that “children should be seen and not heard”.  Boy, she should see what today’s children are like!  They run the family.  The parents are at their beck and call.  There are so many times that I am in a situation that I feel should be only adults, but the children are there, hanging on their parents, interrupting all the time, and hearing things and language that aren’t meant for them.  Now that I am an adult, I am glad my mom and dad were mean.  They were actually raising me to know my place, and give respect to my elders, not sass them and run the show.

So, when I see the YouTube videos of children behaving badly, I really do blame the parents.  And I am SO grateful that I am not a school teacher, as I had originally planned!  Imagine having to deal with that all day long, and not be able to do a damn thing about it!